Tuesday, July 29, 2014

An afternoon in Masi...

I am currently sitting on the front porch of the beach cottage my family rented for the week, listening to the waves, and sipping a cup of coffee.  Such a perfect place to process and think about my previous 10 day adventure to South Africa.  What I wish is that I could have all of you over to sip coffee with me and share the days of my trip to South Africa.  And for those of you close to me, I would love to do that, so get in touch with me!  :)  But for now, I will do my best to capture the moments here on the blog, I know that I will miss many things, and might not be able to paint the clearest of pictures, but I am going to do my best to highlight some of the amazing, hard, painful, joyful times of this trip.  I am so glad you are taking this little adventure with me (which basically means mom and a few other friends who actually read this blog :)) .

We arrived in South Africa Tuesday night late, and Wednesday morning was spent catching up on the rest that did not happen in my compact airplane seat the 30 hours prior.  Wednesday afternoon, we visited Pollsmoor Prison for the first time, and I will share more about that later.  Our visit led us to the hospital/clinic on the property and was very eye opening.   Wednesday evening we shared dinner with the Mayotte's, the missionaries we were serving with and I very much enjoyed sharing and getting to know them.   One of the other purposes of our trip was to receive some training through the church that Steve and Daria are a part of.  We had 3 evenings of training and they were amazing!  This training was wonderful and stretched me in lots of ways.  One area of my spiritual life I have always struggled with is really listening and being obedient to the Holy Spirit, and the training we received certainly addressed that.  One of my favorite things our trainer Alison shared is this,  obedience is more important than knowledge.  More on that later!  :)

Thursday came and we were excited about a day to worship and visit Masi a township in Cape Town. And I had no idea how a visit to this place would affect me!


Here is a little background knowledge about the township, just to give you some perspective.  The township is a Xhosa community and was created during Apartheid.  Apparently it was originally known as Site 5, but later the residents renamed the area Masiphumelele, which means "We Will Succeed".  Around 400-500 people settled the here but as Apartheid unraveled the number of residents began to grow.  At this time, the population of the township is around 38,000 people.  The houses in the township are made from various materials, cardboard, metal sheeting, etc.  Most have dirt floors and no bathroom.  There is a water spout where the families must go to fetch water for cooking, cleaning, bathing etc.  There is a school on the premise, but it is overcrowded and even though it is a public school, there is a fee for students to attend.

When we drove into Masi it was overwhelming.  It was easy to feel down and depressed, to feel such a heavy feeling of despair.  And then we met Edward.  Edward is a friend of Steve's who lives in Masi.  We pulled up to a shack and standing there greeting us with the most amazing smile was Edward.  He was kind, joyful and so excited to welcome us to his home.  We walked behind some homes and made our way to his house.  And that is exactly what he called it, his house.  We entered his one room home and he immediately invited us to sit on his bed and pulled up every available item he could for us to sit and be comfortable.  He told us that he wanted us to come with him next door to his friends house that had more room to do bible study with them.  He had gone over to wake his friends up so that we could all open the word and share how the Lord was speaking to our lives and hearts.  Next door we met Robert and Luke and Joseph.  Again with the same joy and hospitality they welcomed us into their home and shared the best of what they had to offer.  We opened the word together and shared from our hearts.  At that moment, any division that might have been there due to race, background, socio-economic status was erased.  We were brothers and sisters in Christ.  As I looked around the room, I didn't see the nicest furniture, the most up to date clothes, food falling off the shelves.  But what I did see was a true picture of the body of Christ, I heard thankfulness for time with new brothers and sisters, I heard gratitude for how God had provided, I heard sounds of hope.

Meet my new brothers in Christ!
My heart was so full after this impromptu bible study with my new friends.  I love to welcome people into my home just like Edward and the other did for us.  But sadly my opening of my home comes with conditions; my house must be clean, the perfect food must be served, the napkins must match the plates.  How many times do I complain because things are not just so?  And these men taught me that being together in fellowship is about so much more than the just right snacks or the cleanest floor.  It is about being in real community with people, about sharing what is going on in your lives.  It isn't about keeping people out because things are a little messy but instead welcoming them into our mess (figuratively and literally).  This is what living life together really looks like. And boy do I have some work to do!

Saturday, July 26, 2014

Back in the Saddle...

Well friends, my super long break from the blog was not intended, but I am back and ready to be in the habit of blogging again.  I could throw out a million excuses about why I ran away from blogging for a while.  Here are just a few:  my National Boards had to be renewed and turned into much more of a project than I intended, school year was coming to a close and was CRAZY, summer started and I have literally been home for maybe a week.  Oh yeah, and I went to South Africa for 10 days.

It is hard to figure out where to even start with catching up on the blog, I want to continue the book study of Made to Crave (sorry for leaving you hanging).  I want to share what has been going on in my heart and life.  I want to share tons of pictures and stories.  But it makes the most sense to start with what is most recent in my life.  My trip to South Africa.

I have been blessed to be able to spend the next week with my family at the beach to relax which will allow me some great time to begin to process all that God did with our trip to Cape Town, South Africa.  So over the next few days, my goal is to share with you the many memories, stories and pictures from my amazing trip to South Africa!

For those of you who know me well, you know that South Africa holds a very special place in my heart.  One of my very best friends, Beth, lived there for several years and I had the honor of going for two summers to volunteer in the children's home where she worked.  From the moment I stepped foot in the country, South Africa felt like home.  During my two previous trips there, I fell in love with the culture, the people, the beauty, so when the opportunity came up to serve in Cape Town this summer, I was quick to say yes.  The Lord provided in such amazing ways to allow for this trip from finances, to the team of people, to the individuals we met along the way, it was clear that the Lord intended for me to make this journey this summer!

So, on July 14th I boarded a plane, well several planes and traveled to Cape Town, South Africa!



After about a million 30 hours of travel, one stop in Senegal, one missed flight and no sleep, we arrived in Cape Town around 11:00 pm on July 15th.  We were greeted at the airport by Steve, the missionary we were serving with, and he took us to our cottage where we would be staying!  After a great night of sleep, we were ready to head to our first day of ministry!  Can't wait to share with you about our time in the township, Masi and how a bible study in a shack taught me more than I could ever imagine!

One of the great joys about going back to South Africa is that I have a few connections there.  So it was a great joy to catch up with my friend, Nicole who was on holiday in Cape Town and hear about her ministry and to see my friend, Sarah who was on the World Race who just happened to be in Cape Town as well!  God is in the details my friends!



My prayer for the entire trip was that God would just show up big and bigger than I had seen or imagined and He sure did!  I prayed this verse over and over and God was faithful.  So excited to share more with you all tomorrow!  Be blessed!



Tuesday, April 29, 2014

Coconut Cupcakes with Cream Cheese Icing

Happy Tuesday friends!  We are expecting some heavy rain and storms tonight and tomorrow, hope you and yours are safe and sound!  Praying for those already affected by this severe weather!

For Easter one of my tasks was to bring a dessert to our family Easter dinner.  Well you all know by now that I recently got a Kitchenaid mixer and I love that thing.  Before it came into my life I was always nervous to bake.  But now, bring on the baking!  Something magical happens when you dump all those ingredients in that bowl and flip the switch!

So, I looked all through my cookbooks Pinterest and found a great looking recipe for Coconut Cupcakes with Cream Cheese Frosting!  Friends, they were amazing!   I wish I could make these everyday!  I want you all to have that little taste of heaven in your life so I figured I would share the recipe with you!    Enjoy friends!

Coconut Cupcakes 


Ingredients:
  • 1 White Cake Mix
  • 1 large (5.1 oz) box of vanilla instant pudding
  • 4 eggs
  • 1 cup sour cream
  • 1 cup vegetable oil
  • 1/2 cup water
  • 2 tsp coconut extract

Instructions


Mix the cake mix, pudding, eggs, sour cream, oil, water and extract together till smooth. The batter will be thicker than normal cake batter.
Pour into cupcake papers (should fill about 22-24 cupcakes).
Bake for 18-20 minutes at 350 degrees. Bake only until the top bounces back up when you touch it. You don’t want to overbake.

Cream Cheese Frosting( yep, I made it!)


Ingredients:

  • 2 packages of cream cheese (8 oz)
  • 1 stick of softened butter
  • 2-3 C powdered sugar
  • 2-4 Tbsp milk

Instructions:

Mix all of these ingredients together until smooth. Add more powdered sugar if it’s too runny or more milk if it is too thick.  I also added a little bit of coconut extract to taste to my frosting.
Put this in a plastic bag and snip off the corner, then pipe it onto your cupcakes and sprinkle immediately with coconut.

Here is the final product!  Seriously friends, you are going to want to make these, ASAP!


Have a sweet week!  :)




Monday, April 28, 2014

Made To Crave Monday {Chapter 5} and a New Look

Friends!  Did you notice the new look of Everyday Blessings?   I am so excited about my new blog makeover! Can't say enough good things about Tessa over at Tales From Outside the Classroom!  She was so easy to work with and really made the vision for my little blog a reality!  Hope you guys love it as much as I do!  Would love to hear what you think!  Ahh, so excited!!


So it's Made to Crave Monday here on Everyday Blessings and I have to be honest with you guys...I am only going to be discussing one chapter tonight for a couple of reasons.

1.  I did not get a chance to really read Chapter 6 yet.  I was out of town this weekend with family and didn't open the book enough!

and

2.  Chapter 5 was a little tough for me to read.  So I will only share about that one tonight!  We will add chapter 6 next week, so next week will be chapters 6-8.  Hope you guys can handle that! :)


{Chapter 5- Made for More}

The Honeymoon period...man, do I totally agree with that statement!  Even today I fell for that temptation...I am leaving to go out of town again on Thursday, no need to go grocery shopping.  I need something easy to take for lunch tomorrow.  So what did I do, stopped by the Papa John's tent and got a pizza and cheese sticks.  Yes friends, I said it pizza and cheese sticks.  And as I was eating the pizza, I felt terrible.  It didn't taste good, my stomach now hates me, it wasn't worth it!  Why?  Because I was made for more!

Is it just me or is that phrase kinda hard to hear?  I think I have mentioned this on the blog before, but I have a hard time accepting grace.  Now, I am not sure anyone is really great at it, but I am terrible.  I prefer for you to tell me how awful I am, how broken I am, how bad I messed up other than telling me you love me, forgive me, accept me for me.  So to hear that I am made for more is a tough pill for me to swallow.  Does my head know that is true?  Absolutely!  My heart is another story and this is such a big part of this journey for me!  I am still working on forgiving myself of some big ole mistakes of the last couple years, because I honestly didn't think I was meant for much of anything.  And each day I have to make a choice to tell myself I am worthy of the love that is offered to me.  Sometimes that truth comes easily, and sometimes it is simply a struggle.

But friends, we were made for so much more.  I love that Lysa compares it to a victory!  We are meant to be victorious!  Nothing about life, the journey of eating healthier should feel like a heavy weight.  It should offer victory and freedom. I was talking with my sweet cousin this weekend and we both were commenting on how until you really want to change, it won't be a permanent change.  And that is what makes this time different for me I think! It's time to embrace that I was meant for more!

The scripture Lysa shared really hit home with me.  I think it is such a powerful thing to think about on this journey!

{Be Persistent:  "I Keep Asking"}

I will admit this is hard for me.  To ask God to join me in this journey, to lead me in my choices, to help me overcome temptation is hard for me.  I feel weak when I have to depend on other people to help me in my issues.  I should be able to handle them all on my own.  Well we can see where that got me! :) My goal this week is to make this a daily prayer, when I wake up.  God help me remember I am made for more and that you are with me every step of the journey!  Do you struggle with this as well?  How did you invite God to join with you?

{Embrace a True Identity:  "Glorious Father"}

Lysa spoke to my heart in this section as I feel like I also found my identity in my circumstances instead of the fact that I am a child of God.  I would encourage you to write out those statements that she wrote at the end of this section.  Put them on your bathroom mirror, in your car, on your refrigerator as a reminder of who God says you are.  You are more than all the screw ups and mistakes, you are more than the times you have fallen and all the broken parts of your life.  You are loved, made new, set free, forgiven, you are a child of our Glorious Father.  Trust me, I know that is easier said than believed, I just hope we can truly embrace this truth.

{ Find the Deeper Reason:  " So that you may know Him better}

So what is the bigger purpose here, so that we can know Him better.  What a thought!  I know I have such a small picture of the greatness of God.  Part of that is my own cynical heart, my crazy desire to hold onto the hurt because I don't think He will really accept me for who I am.  And as I trust him more with this journey, I know I will see so much more about his character.  Is there any better benefit? What have you learned about God so far on your journey?

{Discover a Power and Hope like no other:  "That the eyes of your heart may be enlightened"}

We must tap into this power and hope that are bigger than ourselves.  We were not meant to go through this life on our own.  May our hearts be enlightened to the fact that we don't have to stay in the same cycles, listen to the same lies, feel like we have to fight these battles on our own.  We have a power that is greater than death that lives in us.   Let's claim this identity for ourselves friends and live in that truth!

What stood out to you in Chapter 5?  Maybe you didn't struggle with this one like I did!  I would love to hear your thoughts, celebrations, struggles! Let's walk this journey together!  Leave your thoughts in the comments!

Have a great week friends!

Friday, April 25, 2014

Five on Friday




Linking up with the Five on Friday ladies today!  I am currently in Hotlanta on a little family road trip and enjoying being with family this last weekend of Spring Break!  Hope you all are having a wonderful Friday!

{o n e }

How in the world is Spring Break almost over?  I would have loved to have been in the sand and sun but have actually really enjoyed a low key break at home.  One of the big reasons it has been low key is that I am working on my National Board renewals this year and of course I put it off til the last minute! Any readers out there been through the renewal process?  I know I have been stressing about it a little more than I am should and have actually gotten quite a bit completed this week!  May 16th is D Day! :)




{ t w o }

On the way down to Atlanta yesterday, the girls in the car were discussing my current shoe obsession...Jack Rogers.  I need want a pair in the worst way!   The only thing holding me back of course is the price tag.  My very wise Mamaw reminded me that paying for quality is a better investment than buying 5 pair of cheap sandals that will be worn out by the end of the season. So, I think I might take the plunge!  I love these neutral ones, and hope that today we are able to head out for some shopping because a little bird told me that they are 25% off at Saks today! :) 



{ t h r e e }

The whole reason we are here in Atlanta this weekend is to spend time with my super cute little cousin Billy Mac.  Last night we were able to watch him play baseball and it was so much fun being at the field.  Reminds me of the many summers I spent at East Asheville Ball fields with my friends, getting a suicide at the concession stand and playing in the creek.  Great memories for sure!  I am so proud of Billy Mac!  He is an amazing little guy!


{ f o u r }

Next week I am heading out on a trip to California and I am so excited!  I am flying a new airline, Southwest.  Anyone have tips for flying Southwest or for travel in general?  I am looking at possibly getting a new crossbody bag to make travel a bit easier.  I really love this one!  



{ f i v e }

Really loving this quote right now!  A simple message but a choice I have to make everyday!  How will you make today great?



Have a great weekend friends!




Monday, April 21, 2014

Made to Crave Monday {Chapters 3 and 4} and Giveaway Winner

Happy Easter Monday friends!  I sure hope you and your families had a wonderful Easter.  I had read a blog earlier in the week that challenged me to listen to the resurrection story as if it was the first time I had heard it and honestly, that was great advice!  As I listened to the story at church, I was overwhelmed at the story, Jesus is Alive!  Such beautiful words!  And I spent the rest of the day with my family.  What a glorious day!  Here is a little picture, just in case you didn't get enough yesterday!



Today we are jumping into Chapters 3 and 4 of Made to Crave and I am really excited about these chapters.  I also just want to say thank you to those of you who have commented on the blog posts, stopped me with words of encouragement, or are reading along with us.  It is such a motivator for me to hear your thoughts, successes, and frustrations!  It lets me know we are not alone on this journey!

{Chapter 3- Getting a Plan}

There was a small part of me that wanted to skip this chapter, only because I know this is a big area of weakness for me.  Friends, I am not a planner.  No part of me likes to be nailed down to a specific plan. As a teacher, those plan books with the little boxes gave me an anxiety attack.  My friends will tell you I like to be spontaneous, fly by the seat of my pants if you will.  But I am learning more and more in this journey of health that planning is key.  Probably one of the most important things we can do.  And that takes me out of my comfort zone and adds another layer of struggle for me!  

One of my great friends says this little saying all the time, 


And I am finally starting to realize she is right.  When I don't take the time to plan, I am setting myself up for failure.  This makes sense to me in my everyday life, but I had not really thought it applied to my eating life!  Part of the struggle comes in that I don't like to make decisions.  Have you ever tried to go out to eat with me?  My famous saying is, "I don't make eating decisions." So add that to having to plan out healthy eating decisions, whew, I am overwhelmed.  But just like Lysa talked about on page 35, we have to invest time and energy to make it happen, to make anything happen.  I am certainly one of those people who wants to see the results without having to do the work.  

"My changes were always temporary; therefore my results were also temporary." (pg. 38)

One thing that I am probably the last person on the earth to actually do is to make a grocery list.  This has really helped me when I go to the store.  I am sure it is mental, but if it is not on my list, I don't get it.  It is a choice, and yes, I can still put those chips in my cart, but the list is one little way I try to hold myself accountable!  If it doesn't end up in my cart, it doesn't end up in my pantry!  Another reason I think this is a struggle for me is that I am cooking for 1 which can be really tricky!  I am not a huge fan of leftovers, so I have to be strategic in what I buy. I don't want to waste all that good food I am buying! What ways do you plan friends?  

The word or thought that really stood out to me in this chapter was the word SACRIFICE.  What an appropriate word to be reading about during this past weekend.  In order for this to be a permanent change, one that sticks, I am going to have to sacrifice.  And not just sacrifice no more salt and vinegar chips.  For me it means also sacrificing time.  Unfortunately going to the grocery story and food prepping don't happen by themselves. The sacrifice might not be my favorite in the moment, but in the long term will be the best thing for me.  

What are your thoughts about Chapter 3?  Please give this planning challenged gal some tips! :)



                               {Chapter 4- Friends Don't Let Friends Eat before Thinking}

"We must be aware that desperation breeds degradation.  In other words, when what is lacking in life goes from being an annoyance to an anxiety we run the risk of compromising in ways we never thought we would." (pg. 42)

Wow!!!  This chapter spoke volumes to me friends, especially that quote.  This is something I have been fighting with for the past couple of years in my life.  And the toll it has taken on my life has been devastating.  I really think it is one of the reasons I am on the journey to becoming healthy.  I made some choices, things I never thought "I" would do.  But Lysa (and yes I use her first name because I am pretty sure we would be friends) makes such a great point, when we are anxious, are put in positions we didn't see ourselves being put in, when the immediate feeling overshadows the long term affects, we do things we never thought we would do.  

I had never thought to lump food into that category as well. In my mind it was just the "big" choices in life.  Not the everyday choices that were included.  But she is right...everyday and every moment is a choice.  And when we have failed to plan we get anxious and the unhealthy choice becomes the easy choice.  Which for me leads to a path of bad choices.  If I eat one bag of Starburst jelly beans, I might as well just go ahead and eat 2.  I have already screwed up!  

I love this verse, "Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.  Be self-controlled and alert."  {1 peter 5:7-8}  I had never really paid much attention to verse 8, but is speaks volumes to me and this current journey.  I must be self controlled and alert to be successful.  And this is where having those friends to do this journey with you is so important! 

I am so thankful for friends who have really stood by me in this slow and purposeful journey to get healthy.  I know I would have never been able to step foot in a gym if it hadn't been for a dear friend meeting me there, saving me a treadmill, holding me accountable, challenging me to push myself!

This is us on our first workout of 2014!

And I wouldn't have ever started blogging about this journey if it hadn't been for a reunion with a sweet friend as well!  



I know my challenge in this area is a friend who I am more accountable to about my food.  And I am totally on board with Lysa in this, I think the reason I haven't reached out to someone more about this is I am afraid of letting them know I failed.  But what I have learned in the past few months over and over again is the importance of GRACE.  If a day doesn't go as I think it should, tomorrow can be better. If I eat a cupcake, make tomorrow different.  I am praying that the Lord would make it clear who I am to ask to help me in this area.  I love the idea of sharing my eating plan for the day with someone.  And probably the biggest thing I need to remember is to find people who will pray for and with me during this journey!  I would be honored to pray for you friends as well, leave a comment on the post and I will certainly pray with you as you make the choices that are best for you!  How do you hold yourself accountable?  

Whew..that is a lot for these two chapters, but I am loving them!  And excited about the journey ahead!  So leave your thoughts in the comments, let's support each other!  Chapters 5 and 6 next week...can't wait!


And for the even better news...Congrats to our giveaway winner, be on the lookout for an email! :)



Have a great week friends...

  

Friday, April 18, 2014

Five on Friday


Excited to link up with Five on Friday today! 



{O N E}


Y'all, do you watch Scandal?  This show messes with my mind and I love it!  One thing I look forward to every week is heading over to my friend Kristi's house, piling up in her bed and watching Scandal! And I don't even mind staying up that late on school nights!  Tonight's episode was ridiculous.  Who saw all that coming?  I am a little sad that this was the season finale and we have to wait til fall to find out what happens with Jake and Liv and Fitz and Mellie.  Here is how Kristi and I felt after the finale...
{T W O}

Last weekend I went to visit my grandmother for a day and one of her favorite things to do is to go grocery shopping!  Her town does not have only Lowes grocery like we do so I love being able to go to the Ingles to find some of my favorites.  I had seen this Black Bean Hummus there a few weeks ago and I knew I really wanted to try it.  And I am so glad I did.  It is amazing!  I ate it with tortilla chips pretty much everyday this week!  I also am a big fan of the fact that is made in Asheville! :)


{T H R E E}

Last year I heard about a great organization called Bead for Life which empowers Ugandan women living in extreme poverty by teaching them a trade.  These women make the most beautiful handmade beads into jewelry and the organization sends you a box of assorted items for you to host a bead party!  All the money goes right back to the women to help support their families.  I have a huge heart for Africa so I decided to host another party this year!  I can't wait til May 8th to host some of my friends for a Bead for Life party!  Check out their website to learn more and how you can help!  This year in my box they even sent me a surprise treat and I LOVE it!  I think the color is beautiful!  If you live in the Hickory area, please join me on May 8th to check out all the beautiful stuff!


{F O U R}

Anyone out there subscribe to a box, like Birchbox or Julep?  I had subscribed to Birchbox for about a year and really loved getting the treats in the mail once a month.  Over the past couple of months though, I wasn't really impressed with the products that were showing up in my boxes, so I decided to cancel my subscription.  Because I loved getting the mail so much, I did a little research on a new subscription and found one I am so excited about.  It is called Mission Cute (don't you love the name?) and the thing I love about it is that is partners with a non profit each month and 50% of the proceeds go to that non profit.  They have even supported some non profit organizations here in NC.  The other thing I love is that the items in the box are from small businesses and local artists.  I got my first box this week and I was so excited about it!  

I am a sucker for cute packaging!  Loving that polka dotted tissue paper!


Here is the non profit they are partnering with this month!  



And here are the goodies that were in my box!  Inside was a handmade candle made in NC which smells divine,  a super cute necklace, a new key chain and a handmade print!  So cute!


Friends you should totally check out this fun new organization!  I can't wait til May's box!


{F I V E}


It is finally Spring Break and I couldn't be more excited!  I am looking forward to no alarm clocks, leisurely lunches with friends, time with family and just some overall relaxation!  


Hope you all have had a great week!  Don't forget to enter the giveaway for the Worth of the Dream conference ticket!  

Have a blessed Easter weekend!  







 
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